Addendum.

 One more annoying thing (this said by my mother):

"You always change, and start talking about everything so big."

(That is, that I always start talking about structural stuff when I start talking about employment and profession -- but how can you *not* talk about structural stuff, when your face is just rubbed in it again and again in so many unexpected ways...  It's like my one [half British] [half Sudanese] friend [the brother of the brother-sister pair] said when I mentioned that comment to him, having the luxury to *not* think about stuff like that comes from a very certain place of economic certainty and stability, that was in place generationally, but is no longer.)