A few months ago when I was hanging out socially with my one (chubby) (Thai) coworker, she was telling me how she had recently caught up with a college friend of hers, and before that they hadn't been talking for a while as much as they usually do, and so she called her up and leveled with her and was like, "Is something happening? Something seems to be happening and you can tell me anything," and her friend basically said that she and her boyfriend of 12 years had broken up, since he wanted her to get out of her government job and take a new and better-paying job, but she wanted to stay in her current government job, because in (Thailand) that gets certain benefits for your family like for her aging parents.
And, I immediately remarked that that was very odd, for a boyfriend to want to dictate someone's job choice like that.
And, she immediately disagreed, and said it was a (Chinese Thai) thing, since (Chinese Thai) tend to be "very traditional," and, it was a family business and he worked in it and he was the oldest son, so there was just this expectation that he would give direction within the larger family and within that relationship unit.
Like, that was the cultural context.
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